Mindful Forgiveness

Mindful Forgiveness

Forgiveness often happens mindlessly in most relationships.

Being late home, not doing the laundry, getting drunk, making fools of themselves at parties – are all mindlessly forgiven. No effort involved normally, just give it a week or two and hey presto forgiven; probably not forgotten though.

Sometimes however there is such a major breach of trust that it is not so easily forgiven.

All of a sudden, forgiveness is being thought about. It changes from mindless forgiveness to more mindful, hard-work, forgiveness.

Mindful forgiveness is something we are not as experienced in, and leads us to ask questions like: “How do I forgive?” and “How do I move on?”.

Here are some thoughts to help you as you ponder the whole concept of forgiveness:

  1. What does forgiveness mean to me?
  2. Who am I forgiving and why?
  3. If I forgive what benefit will there be? What are the detrimental aspects of forgiving?
  4. Have I ever been forgiven? What was that like?
  5. What rule has been broken this time that is so unacceptable to me?

Clinical Psychologist Dr David Wells has written an excellent article about Mindful Forgiveness. Why not take a few moments to read through it now?